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Fixing Your Relationship? Three Things You Should Never Do
November 10, 2009 | Leave a Comment
No matter how wonderful your relationship, everyone goes through phases of “not so great”. No relationship is immune to larger known issues, nor to the small stuff that leaves us out of sorts with each other. The good news? It’s not the end; and it doesn’t mean that things won’t go back to being love dovey.
The bad news? When you’re the one who’s actually in the middle of a malfunctioning twosome, it’s really hard to see that things will get better. When that’s the case, it can be easy to lose your head. I mean, we’re only human. We’re weird animals. And when something that is dear to us, like a love, is threatened, we’ll do some crazy things in the name of saving it.
Which is all very understandable. If you’re in that situation and need some help getting things turned around, read on for three things you definitely should NOT do to get your relationship back on track. And by the way, the baby thing? I so did not do that.
Babies
Seriously? I have to say this? Apparently, I do. Because people are still doing the whole punching-holes-in-condoms or I-swear-I’m-on-birth-control thing and tricking their significant other into an “accidental” pregnancy. And it’s not just the ladies…men do this too. A thousand shades of wrong, folks.
Privacy invasion
“I know that if I sneak a peak at his email and text messages I’ll gain some insight into what he’s thinking. If I can do that I can fix all our problems”. Are you crazy?? Besides possibly breaking the law this is bound to get you broken up. Deliberately snooping through someone’s private business is never okay.
Checking a lover’s email, Facebook, text messages…all straight ways to freaking yourself out. Because either you find something that is incriminating against him/her and then you can’t use it against them (illegally obtained evidence is inadmissible in court, babies) or you find nothing and you’re just a snoop. Lose/Lose.
Moving in together
This kind of goes along with the whole baby thing. Couples have this strange, habitual impulse to move a relationship forward when trouble comes to town. Although completely illogical, I suppose it’s also a completely natural response; the idea of facing your problems (and possible the end of your relationship) is such a downer.
Understandable because you figure moving in together is one way of staying close to your partner. But guess what, your problems are going to follow you wherever you go. Though the change of scenery may provide a temporary respite, when your problems resurface, and the will, you now have the added responsibility, and complication, of a shared lease or mortgage.
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